Crushes

So let’s talk about crushes, we’ve all had them, right? Celebrity crushes, crushes that aren’t right and people in our class crushes! My main celebrity crush is probably Theo James- I’ve been in love with him since I was him in the Divergent series, he is just perfect. I’ve never really had a crush in my class because I tend to become friends with boys rather than fall heads over heels but there are a couple that have caught my eye- just never anything serious. But for all of you lovely people, who actually have good looking people in your lessons, here are some tips on how to know whether you like someone. Here I am hoping to just give you some tips on different scenarios you may face with your crush.

 

Can we take a minute to appreciate his perfection? 

SET OF TIPS NUMBER ONE- HOW TO APPROCH THEM?

1.       Find something you both have in common- this will make it easier to start conversations and will give you the ability to have an easy conversation as you will already know lots about the case.

2.       Make a witty comment- show them that there could be something there and that you are interested, although many girls like playing hard to get it is important to show him that you come from the same universe as him and that you are actually capable of being causal.

3.       Always remember to be honest- honesty is the best policy, and lying won't get you anywhere!

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SET OF TIPS NUMBER TWO- WHICH TYPEOF CRUSH DO YOU HAVE?

1.       Know that there are different kinds of crushes. The term ‘crush’ gets thrown around a lot. It can simply mean that you’re attracted to them.

·         The Friendly Crush: It is important to remember that not all strong feelings are romantic. Letting yourself trust someone and become really close to someone, without necessarily having romantic feelings for him/her, is a really special thing. Wanting to be around a person all the time may just mean that you have gone from friends to best friends. Its totally normal to have a friend crush--you should want to hang out with your BFF as much as possible.

·         The Admiration Crush: When you idolize a person (like a celebrity, teacher, or classmate who has done something really cool) you may realize that you have really intense feelings about that person and what he/she has done. These feelings might be mistaken for romantic feelings simply because they are so intense. Feeling slightly awed in the presence of someone who has done something amazing or can teach you great things is natural. Often, its best to let a bit of time pass before really thinking too hard about these feelings. Generally once you have spent a lot of time with this person, you will have learned a lot from them and may begin to feel like you can stand on equal ground.

·         The Passing Crush: It is human nature to be attracted to other people. Even if you are in a great relationship, you still might find that you feel attracted to someone other than your boyfriend/girlfriend. This attraction is what we call a passing crush-- this new person may seem new and exciting, and he/she probably is, but that doesn’t mean you should reconsider the relationship you are in or, if you’re single, drop everything to try to be with him/her. Often times, passing crushes are spiked by being attracted--most often physically--to someone.

·         The Romantic Crush: Sometimes having a crush on someone really does mean you really, really like them--and in a romantic way at that. Having a romantic crush means that you want to be with that person in more than just a friendly way--you want to be his/her boyfriend or girlfriend. If you fantasize about kissing, holding hands with, or cuddling with that person, you probably have a romantic crush.

SET OF TIPS NUMBER THREE- DEALING WITH YOUR CRUSH

1.       Talk to the person- It may feel awkward at first, but realize that if your crush thinks you're just trying to be friendly, he or she will probably want to talk to you. No matter how dumb you feel, eventually you're going to have to try starting a conversation about something you're both interested in. If it seems too hard at the moment to do this, maybe wait a while until it seems like a better time.

·         •Don't start conversations if you don't understand the subject matter; focus only what you know about? This sounds fairly obvious, but think about it: If you don't watch football, don't bring it up! It'll make the other person feel odd if he's doing all the talking.

2.       Use body language-If you're talking to a guy, licking your lips supposedly reminds them of kissing. Don't do this too much or they're going to think something's wrong with you, like you are badly in need of chap stick. Playing with your hair a little bit might be a good thing too, but go easy on this one.

3.       Drop ‘em hints- If you want to hint to them you like them (after you've been chatting and all for a while...), you don't have to invite them to go somewhere with you if you're uncomfortable with that. Once you get confidence, you can hint something like, "Hey, me, so-and-so, whatshisname, whatshername, and a couple other people are going to the park this weekend. Wanna come?" Understand that you shouldn't ask this as though you think they'll say no. Say it as if you want them to come for fun, and then that might give you a hint on how much they like you.

 

SET OF TIPS NUMBER FOUR- GETTING OVER YOUR CRUSH

1.       Ask yourself why your crush is a bad idea-

·         If he/she's a lot younger than you are or he/she's a lot older than you are, why are you interested in a young or old partner whose interests and priorities will be very different from your own?

·         If you have a crush on your brother's girlfriend, is it more about getting one over on your brother than actual interest in the girl? It might be that for a series of circumstances you are feeling needy and vulnerable, making it a bad time to take any action.

2.       Consider your reputation. What will other people think — will they think more, or less of you? Though we often say that it doesn't matter what people think and that love conquers all, in some cases, the fact of the matter is that what other people think does matter, because their disapproval, or even their scorn, may make it very difficult for you to carry out your potential inappropriate relationship. It's important to step back and look at the big picture, to consider how other people would react to your relationship.

I honesly hope that at least one of these sections has come helpful to you or maybe just made you laugh- I’m really sorry that this isn’t as personal as my posts usually are however I just don’t have a love life so this would have just been a blank page- I hope you’re all having a nice day/ night and can I just remind you of how beautiful you are and I anyone that wouldn’t want you in their life is making a huge mistake.

Sending hugs and kisses

Beauty Of A Girl

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