Hello beautiful people! I just
want to remind you how incredible you all are, and that although it may seem
unlikely during many times- when you’re feeling low and the whole world seems
against you, everyday someone takes a second glance at you, someone envies your
beautiful smile and eyes and your intelligence, someone would do anything to
have the warm heart you do, and to be as patient as you are, every single one
of your features is incredible and you have been envied by more than one
person. I know that’s hard to believe but take it from me- it’s true, you’re
more beautiful than you think, you’re smarter than you know and you’re more
beautiful than you will ever believe in.
Today, I want to talk about racism,
it was a topic requested by one of my internet friends and it’s something that
lies close to my heart, I have two stories that do touch me (they might not
touch you- but hey) and then I’ve just got some tips for you to enjoy,
hopefully they’ll help you or your friends accept yourselves and be capable to
deal with the experience because it’s something that I really stand against.
So, (tries to set story theme- realises
you might not have time so skips straight in) we were playing netball and one
of my closest friends (let’s call her A) was marking a girl (who we’re going to
call) and A made contact with B, you see A has an Thailand background and therefore
appears almost like a dark tanned look, but trust me she is stunning, inside
and out. And A accidently scratched B, after we restarted the game and the ball
moved away from us, B turned to A and pointing at a scratch on her arm said
‘’I’ve been scratched by an animal’’
And although it wasn’t anywhere
near the place where A scratched her it broke my heart to hear her apologising!
She had obviously been referred to that previously and was really hurt by that
so even though B was referring to her dog, A took it in as if she was referring
to her. This made me realise how desperately I needed to write this post and
what an awful thing racism is.
Moving swiftly onto the next
story, we were in the corridor and there was a massive rush, towards the door,
there was a girl next to me, Polish background, who was pushed into this boy
who smokes, and is never really at school, basically not a great person who
considers himself the best, but really he’s in the lowest set and is just one
of the popular and believes everyone should bend down to him, the girl is so intelligent
and is in top set for most things, and is really respected by everyone. I was
so angry to hear what he shouted that I literally could go up to him and punch
him,
“Ewwww,
immigrant get off”
How could she have avoided getting
pushed into him? It wasn’t her fault! She didn’t even hurt him- I was so angry
and it broke my heart to see her blushing and her eyes filling with water- her
family is independent of both of her parent’s work- she didn’t deserve that.
TIPS FOR DEALING WITH RASCIM
1)
Realise that you’re not over reacting, if it’s
bothering you and if it’s a repeated offence than it can be caused as
anti-social behaviour, which if it is serious can actually be illegal and therefore
as a victim you have the right to call the police, and seek help.
2)
Make it about the words or behaviour- instead of
saying they are being racist, you can say something like “That phrase is
offensive to my background…” explaining it to them after, if you are able to
use the particular phrase- teachers and forces such as the police will be
capable to react much faster.
3)
Talk about it to your friends (the ones who aren’t
being racist)- at first you may be frighten to go straight to the teacher or
police but talk to the people in the environment where it happens because they
will probably be able to show how to react to the situation and what kind of
punishment to expect for the person hurting you.
4)
Deal with the racist in a group setting in order
for you to have your friends there for support, the person may become more intimidated
and therefore act with more respect towards you.
5)
Don’t react, don’t attack them back or swear at
them because it will only turn people against you and you may have trouble
getting the help you deserve and it can just land you in trouble.
HOW TO FEEL BETTER ABOUT YOURSELF
AFTER BEING A VICTIM OF RASCIMS
1)
Embrace your individuality- wear clothes and
make up that highlight your best features and the parts of yourself that you
feel best about.
2)
Embrace your strengths- •You can work on
recognizing when your thoughts are overly negative and turn them around to lead
yourself to a healthier mind-set. For every negative thought that crosses your
mind, fight it with at least two or three positive thoughts. For example, if
you think, "I look so tired today," you can say, "But my hair
looks pretty great and I still have an amazing smile." Be compassionate
toward yourself. Talk to yourself like you would the person/animal you most
love when you're hurting inside.
On
a deeper level, if you think something like, "I am just so awkward in
social situations," you should say, "But I usually know how to make
people laugh and people seem really comfortable around me."
I really hope you enjoyed reading
this, if you ever have anything you want me to cover please don’t be afraid to
get in touch, over Easter I promise I will work on being more regular with
posts because I love writing and I just find it such a positive experience however
the amount of homework I have right now is crazy, I’m not complying but I have priorities
which come before my blog- this week focus on realising you are beautiful xoxoxox
Sending hugs and kisses
Beauty Of A Girl xoxoxoxo
